Lily & Jay- Amherst
Jay (Jack’s Dad)-
When my wife Lily proposed the idea of having a postpartum doula, I said… “Okay, that sounds good. What is a postpartum doula?!” Having never changed a diaper before in my life, I certainly had a lot to learn.
Our little Jack arrived on June 4th, 2015 at Cooley Dickinson Hospital. Blessed with a successful birth, a healthy baby and a healthy mommy, the three of us went home two days later, eager to begin our life as a family of three. We arrived at our home, which we had been preparing for months for this very day. A newly painted nursery awaited Jack full of new furniture, toys, swaddle blankets, changing supplies, etc. We felt ready!
We learned quickly that it takes a lot more than the right “things” to smoothly transition into life with our first newborn. We also learned what true sleep deprivation was! I don’t know how we would have done it without Sara! Between breastfeeding, bottle feeding, changing diapers, swaddling, umbilical cord care, bathing in addition to feeding and taking care of ourselves and our house while also managing the endless amount of loving visitors- we certainly had our hands full!
Knowing that self-care wasn’t our top priority at the time, Sara made sure that there were meals prepped and ready to go for ourselves. Meanwhile, she also offered immense support and knowledge as we figured out how to meet Jack’s needs during those first few days- always knowing exactly when to step in, and when to give us space. She was there to care for Jack when we needed to catch a few hours of sleep. It was invaluable to have somebody we could trust with our newborn baby.
As a new father, there were so many little things to learn (burping, feeding with a syringe, and yes… changing those diapers!). Sara made me feel confident in the notion that I was born to do this. She helped me believe in myself and my abilities as a parent, but more importantly made me believe in Lily and myself as a team.
We hope to someday give Jack a little brother or sister. With a toddler to keep up with, we will need Sara even more next time around.